Too pooped to paw…
Well, our spark for today is another take on the feeling that you have to say yes to everything and be positive and do, do, do, until you drop.
It’s okay to say no.
You are not a bad person for telling the truth.
Mama was asked to talk to a food group about cooking and baking in particular and how she and papa started the business and she was pretty booked up and said, Yes, I’ll be there on such and such a date, and as the date approached, mama said Oh, why did I say yes, I am wiped out and just have to tell her things have changed and I can’t make it, and I feel so guilty.
There was plenty of time for the woman to plan another speaker, but mama felt really bad about saying that she couldn’t do it.
When mama called the woman and explained that she was simply wiped out and could not do the lecture, the woman said, Oh, I know how you feel. I had to do the same thing once and I felt so guilty and that I had let down everyone, and I am sayng to you now, Do not worry about this!! It’s fine. We will do it another time.
Anthros get tired, and they commit to too many things, as mama did, and it’s FINE to say no when you just can’t do it, for whatever reason.
So many of you are so giving of your time and energy, to work, to causes, to kitties and doggies, to mates and friends. But a true friend will understand a No or I can’t or Not now, sorry.
I think, too, that with holidays coming, a little no every now and then might be just the ticket for keeping things full of spirt and joy, and you, full of energy!
But if you need me, mama, I’m always here.
Loulou, sometimes a kitty has to say no to snuggles and being photographed and just have a nice simple head rub.
The mom is learning to say no more often, Loulou. ~Ernie
Hurrah!!! More time for YOU, dear Ernie, and snuggles.
My Mom understands totally. As she’s gotten older she really just doesn’t have the energy for so many things she loves – blogging, shopping, traveling. SO she’s slowly going to change things to make it EASIER for her…my Dad says the same thing. As for me – I like my routine – naps in the morning, afternoon and evening combined with assorted snack times and petting. It works for me! I’m glad your Mama told the lady she was too tired for the “talk” – my Mom says when you’re tired you can’t do the BEST job so it’s best to wait until you are ENERGIZED!
Hugs, Teddy
Well, mama is so glad to have touched on something so many have trouble with…especially FEMALE anthros, no? And I’m with you, Teds, we have our days programmed really well and “No” is not needed too often haha.
I completely agree, Loulou. Especially at this time of the year, when we are all so pooped, it’s absolutely ok to say no.
Merci, Ms M…we love your advice, too.
That is an AWW to go along with your wise advice!!
I used to blog a lot more often, and I made pictures for doggies and kitties that were having gotcha days and birthdays…as well as the memorial ones. It was taking over my life…so now I mostly make a blog post once a week, with some others here and there, and I only make my art images for myself and for new angels that went to the RB….and still I am way too busy!
Add that to my work, albeit part time, and other chores and obligations…phew!! Yes, I totally understand about getting wiped out!
If we don’t take care of ourselves how can we do justice to helping others?
Mais oui! That is such a good observatin…how, indeed, can we help others when drained of energy and needing a nice head rub or a good NAP? Thank you for taking a bit of time for R and R.
Great spark. It took me most of my 54 years to realize it is OK to say no. XO
Well, it’s time for Ellen right now or at least a few minutes a day to re-charge! You do so much for so many.
Hope you meowmy gets over feeling badly about saying ‘no’.
Once I learned I could say no to family stuff, it really liberated me!
Yay, yay, and yes, mama is fine with it now and it makes life so much more fulfilling and balanced.
LouLou, you and Mama are so right. Our HuMom is frustrated that she still feels tired from her hospital adventure, but some friends who Know These Things tell her that is not unusual and it is important to take care of yourself too. Purrs and virtual head rubs to you !
Oh, Ms Mary, do rest and relax when you need it. We hope that the adventure was not too stressful but after any hospital stay, it’s normal to be tired.
oh my cod loulou! i haz no problem saying no to thingz, like being picked up and kissed to letting dee mum trim my clawz. mum, lately, haz no problem saying no fur dee sheer fact dat she iz too old or to tired or too booked up wif udder stuffingz. she sez it iz part ov her noo “me”-ligion. yoo gotz to do wat yoo gotz to do an not feelz giltee. no regertz
Haha, we kitties are pretty good at letting things HAPPEN to us, but at times, we, too, need to be alone in our beddie byes and meditate on sleep yoga.